Thursday, January 08, 2009

Digging Out the Truth

Tonight was a counseling session for my son. Unbeknownst to me my ex would also be in attendance. He IS her son so there is not much I could say.

Anyway, we began talking about the issues that seem to be bothering him. We talked about the "event" of last Thursday with his grandmother (see two posts down). I thought he would bring up things about the divorce and how he was still mad at me. Such was not the case.

He mainly talked about how upsetting it is living at his grandmother's house. My ex, daughter, and ex-SIL live there, as well. It seems there is quite a bit of arguing and "cussing", as he put it, going on. It sounds like ex-MIL is quickly slipping into the twilight zone, and it is upsetting him. He did not mention one thing about being upset with me.

The counselor suggested a family session, not including me. I think I am okay with that. Maybe there he will see I am not so bad after all. I would like to be fly on the wall at that session, though.

All was not rosey with he and I, tonight, though. Later, while eating Gill texted me. He did not like that. We got mad at each other. He has to get it through his teenage head that he is not the parent, here.

Sincerely,

Doc

7 comments:

gillardia said...

Hmmmm... I guess that explains why I haven't heard from you.

Gill

DrStrangelove said...

We've been studying for his Geography final, too.

Dorrie said...

I really hope the counseling helps.... sounds pretty good so far.

Anonymous said...

maturity will help greatly....stay close to him and be patient....

BonnieBehave said...

It must be hard on you. I hope the session helps. I think with time, though, he'll come around and see that you aren't the problem. Like you mentioned before, you are the one he feels safe being mad at. He'll see that, too, with time.

Lunamor said...

Yep, what Bonnie said - she seems pretty wise!

Fin said...

Do you know WHY he was upset by a text from Gill?